My Poor, Poor Friend!
November 11th, 2007 by Jennine
I am in need of advice.
You see, I have…this friend whose husband has spent the last two weeks deer hunting which actually didn’t bother my friend at all. My friend is happy that her husband was able to spend time doing something he loves and my friend made it so easy for him to get away from the rigors of day to day life at home. She never complained once when he arrived home from work and was out in the field five minutes later. In fact, she took over all his responsibilities while he was away. When my friend’s husband came in from hunting, he plopped on the couch and turned on NASCAR or football while my friend scrambled around getting children ready for school and folding laundry.
But my friend’s husband never once thanked her or showed any sort of appreciation for her willingness to accomodate
his hobby. He never made mention of her great effort while he was away. It seems my friend’s husband is a complete dork sometimes.
So in light of my friend’s husband’s dorkiness, how would you encourage my friend? What advice could you give to my friend that would help her not trip over her pouting lower lip? After all, all my friend wanted was a thank you without having to ask for one!
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November 12th, 2007 at 10:22 am
Hmmm, my advise to you - uh, I mean your friend - is to pretend that she has scheduled a week away alone with her friends and that her husband will need to take care of things while she’s gone. That ought to get him to think about how lucky he is to have a wife like you - uh, I mean her.
November 12th, 2007 at 9:21 pm
Wow, Jeff. You give great advice. I think I’m going to take it. That will show him not to take someone for granted! But what if he pretends to get along just find while I’m pretending to leave town for a week?
Maybe I should just pretend not to be mad and it will all just go away. :)
Thanks again for your help. (I’m not just pretending to be thankful),
Jennine’s Friend
November 13th, 2007 at 7:56 am
Jennine, I mean, your friend;
In the event that your friend was doing this for a thank you or appreciation, well, then, that’s not going to happen; as men really are absent-minded dorks in that area. Please let your friend know that.
On the other hand, if it was done with complete sincerity and she really would just love some said appreciation, she should just ask. Maybe set up a dinner date for the two of them, away, no children; you know, IF they have kids and all. This way, they both feel appreciated together. Alone.
I hope this helps your “friend”
Deborah
November 15th, 2007 at 8:40 am
Tell your friend that throwing stuff worked for me. Every year I felt under-appreciated at Christmas until the year I threw stuff, now I have my very own Christmas elf. A very tall Christmas elf.
November 15th, 2007 at 5:26 pm
Charli! My friend thinks you’re absolutely brilliant. Rumor has it that she started off by throwing a fit!
November 16th, 2007 at 9:04 am
Yeah, but “a fit” doesn’t crash as nicely as Christmas presents!
November 18th, 2007 at 10:41 pm
Just say, “Honey I am so glad you had such a great time. Next year I plan on going hunting, while you will be having fun with the kids at home” Then you go!!